Neo Marti, a female powerhouse and the CEO and Founder of www.survivingseparation.com. She is a certified transformation coach, published author and effective change catalyst.
What inspired surviving-separation?
Surviving-separation was built to bridge the gap between surviving and thriving post separation/divorce. When you realise that your marriage is over, there’s a whirlwind of chaos that takes place. You are affected mentally, physically, emotionally and financially. And yet, you are still required to ‘function’. You still have to work and parent among many other things. What then happens is you embody and live in survival mode, because you have no other choice. But then you get stuck living in survival mode. And no one shows you exactly how you can leave it behind… I’m here to change the narrative. Survival mode is not where one should build their new life. It’s ok to stay there for a while and to honor that you are living in it, but at some point, if you don’t choose to leave it, it overpowers you. This is why I empower women and show them exactly how to divorce survival mode and transform their life, so that they shift into thriving instead.
Getting employment or starting your own business, was it a hard choice for you?
I’ve always loved entrepreneurship. I studied Business Management in University and I’ve owned my own business before. It didn’t turn out the way I had hoped but I learnt a lot and grew from that experience. So starting surviving-separation, which then led me to Neo Marti Coaching was not a hard choice for me. It was scary at times for sure, but to be honest, I didn’t really have to make any kind of choice. Once I had healed enough to pour into others, I was CERTAIN that this was not only my passion, but my life purpose. And I’m certain that I have all the skills necessary to empower women, because I went through it myself. I have lived everything I teach. And there’s nothing that brings me more joy than to ease another woman’s suffering and to see her blossom instead. I only look at it as a ‘business’ in terms of the ‘administrative’ work I have to do. For me, Neo Marti Coaching is the reason I can’t sleep at night and the reason I can’t wait to get up in the morning.
I love what I do, and I love what it has done for me and my children. Through giving to other women, I have also been able to keep investing in myself and because I’m a happier version of me, I’m a better mother as well.
How do you help your clients, what is your process?
Firstly, my client’s have got to divorce survival mode before we can start thriving. So when my client comes on-board, they go through my first program, Survivor In Me ©, to divorce living in survival mode and to empower them to start harnessing their inner power. This is a 10 step-by-step process. Once they are done with Survivor In Me ©, they graduate to the Thriver In Me program © which is my custom 1:1 coaching program that enables them to implement lasting change with my support on a more extensive level.
What methods or channels are you using to reach your clients?
I reach my clients through my blog/website (surviving-separation.com), Facebook and
LinkedIn:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/neo.marti.coach
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/divorce-coach-neo-marti/
Website: https://surviving-separation.com/neo-marti-coaching/
How do you persevere through tough times?
I remind myself how far I’ve come. I have been at rock bottom. I know exactly what that looks like. And even though I might be having a hard day or time, I take a moment to remind myself that I shall also survive the ‘current’ tough time. Because now I know how to
replenish from within. So it too, shall pass.
Mental health is currently the biggest threat to humanity, how do you stay on top of it?
The mind can be a very beautiful place, or a very dangerous one. It depends if it’s controlling you, or you’re controlling it.
For me to stay on top of my mental health, I listen to my body as well, not only my mind. And when I can hear my body I listen to “source”. Some people call it God, some people call it universe, or spirit. The name someone wants to call it is not relevant to me.
The point is, I try not to let my mind become the leader. I am not only my mind. I have a body. And I have intuition and “messages” from the divine and all around me. It needs a bit of training and work to reprogram your mind but it’s definitely worth the investment.
What advice would you give to single parents out there that have just found themselves in the situation you were in and trying to navigate their new reality?
You are yet to meet the best version of yourself and become the best parent you can be, so don’t give up on yourself.Nothing stays the same forever, that’s reality. Change what you can change, when you need to change it. But don’t only be focused on external change. The change should also come from within. And then reality will start to change for you. I like to say , “your marriage may be over, but your life isn’t.” Neo Marti
What do you want to achieve next?
I have been designing and creating my own App for a few months now and I am ready to launch it publicly soon. The app has my Survivor In Me © 6 Week Program that allows my client’s to divorce survival mode anywhere, anytime and be able to track their progress. It also includes the possibility to get 1:1 coaching support throughout the process so that no one ever feels alone, stuck, or
afraid to take the next step, whether in their life or in the course.
How can women work across the divides and opinions?
“What other people think of you and your marriage ending is their business, not yours” Neo Marti
Describe yourself in three words?
Healer, Thriver, Leader
What is your daily mantra that keeps you going?
“Put it in motion, from a place of love” Neo Marti.
As in, whatever I do, say or touch, I must do it wholeheartedly and intentionally. Even if I’m just packing my children’s lunchbox. I set the intention to nourish their bodies and I pack their food from a place of love. No task is too big or small for you to pour love into. And if I can’t pour love into it, then the question is really, why am I doing it!